Did you know that there are two basic types of high achievers?
High achievers typically share common behavior patterns. But when it comes to these two types, it’s the quirks that separate them. Let me explain.
Both types of go-getters are action-oriented. They both focus on consistently getting things done.
Both types focus on the outcomes they wish to achieve.
Both types seek opportunities to improve, striving always for growth and progression
Both types received kudos and admiration for their drive and accomplishments.
But both types aren’t equal.
For the purposes of this post, let’s look at a day in the lives of two high achieving women: Anstey and Eades.
Eades wakes up at the same time each morning, without her alarm. She has a daily routine that ensures that feels well-cared for, balanced and at ease before her day begins.
Once she has completed her morning self-care routine, Eades surveys her agenda for the day and adjusts for her energy level and any unexpected demands.
Eades’ agenda includes: time for herself in the form of regular self-care breaks, focused blocks of time dedicated to crushing her goals and social/relationship time.
At the end of the day, Eades may not have completed everything on her agenda. So, she spends about 10 minutes each evening reviewing the day and setting the agenda for the next day. This way, Eades keeps her finger on the pulse of progress toward her goals.
Eades makes daily progress in her achievements and has already accomplished more than other women her age and with her family and relationship commitments.
Eades feels amazing about herself and how far she has come in her life.
Eades is a high achiever who does what she does with ease. We want to Be Like Eades.
See what I did there? 😉
Now, let’s peek into a day in the life of Anstey – our other high achiever.
Anstey sleeps every second that she can until the moment her alarm rings. Then, she might hit snooze a few times before she actually jumps out of bed straight to a sprint.
Anstey doesn’t keep an agenda, she doesn’t need one.
That’s because Anstey is constantly thinking about what she wants to get done in spite of so many obstacles and distractions that come up in her life every. single. day.
See, Anstey is a plate spinner. There are things she wants to do and things she has to do.
The things she has to do often get in the way of what she wants. So, she lets a few plates drop.
Anstey doesn’t exercise like she should and her home is disorganized, but she’s getting closer to achieving her goals. Slowly. Not daily, but progress is progress, right?
Anstey’s strength is achieving when it comes to opportunities for appraisal. Acceptance. How she is viewed by the world around her.
She’s an amazing co-worker. She’s a driven employee. Her boss knows that she can be trusted to get anything done that she’s asked to do.
Anstey’s friends and family marvel and how much she does. On the surface and to outsiders, Anstey looks like she’s got it together . . . . although, she can be a little intense at times.
Anstey still gets things done because she’s driven by an internal motor that won’t let her rest. It’s the same internal motor that Anstey secretly knows is driving her energy into the ground.
But she just keeps going.
The only problem for Anstey is that Anstey doesn’t feel like she’s in charge of her own life. She’s an achiever, but not the kind of achiever that gets what she wants.
Anstey . . . Well. Let’s talk about how to be like Eades.
The difference between Anstey and Eades is that Eades has a clear queue.
Her Body History isn’t full of old beliefs and stored up emotional energy that has to be tamped and down and moved to the side so that she can get things done.
That’s why Eades can do what she does with ease.
Anstey’s queue is full. Her Body History acts as a hidden motor that keeps her unable to take a deep breath, survey her life and adjust to make it fit what she wants.
Anstey’s Body History keeps her running because she’s afraid to stop and see what’s inside.
The difference between Eades and Anstey is how each one deals with her Body History. They both have it.
Eades knows what to do with it. Anstey doesn’t.
Stay tuned this week for more about Anstey and Eades.
Next, I’m going to explain more about Body History to help you understand what it is and what it does.
So you can be like Eades.
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